This is the ‘electronic’ version of the magazine of the Priory Church of St Andrew the Apostle, Hamble. This version is for those living outside the parish who do not receive a free copy, or for those that have lost their original copy. My thanks to Liz (Scoop) Jarvis, New Waves editor, for her kind co-operation in making this ‘e’ version possible.
Funded by St Andrew’s and delivered free to all homes in Hamble
In this issue:
- Church Services
- A Voice from the Vestry
- Obituary In memory of Alec Chalk
- Christmas in the Priory Centre
- Letter to the Editor
- What’s on?
- Who do I contact
Church Services on Sundays
8.00 am Holy Eucharist
9.50 am Beacons (Junior Church) – meet in the Priory Centre
10.00 am The Parish Eucharist; coffee is served afterwards
1st Sunday in the month only – in addition to the above services:
11.15 am “The 11.15”- modern worship; coffee is served afterwards
12 noon Holy Baptism
2nd Sunday in the month only except in Lent– in addition to the above services:
6.00 pm Choral Evensong
Church Services on Weekdays
Tuesday 7.00 pm Holy Eucharist
Healing Service once a month on Tuesday: Tuesday 6th of December, Tuesday 3rd of January, Tuesday 7th of February and Tuesday 6th of March
Thursday 9.45 am Eucharist – informal service with hymns; coffee is served afterwards
Parish Priest :Fr. John Travers The Vicarage, High Street, Hamble, SO31 4JF Tel/Fax 02380452148 e mail: email@example.com
|Parish Readers : Joan Glue Tel : 01489 788675 David Winser Tel: 02380455872 Churchwardens : Colin Glue Tel: 01489 788675 Pat Stephens Tel: 02380454181|
A Voice from the Vestry – The True Meaning of Lent.
What is Lent? Why is it so widely practiced by “Christians” of this world? Is it because the Bible commands it? Did Christ or any of His apostles observe Lent? What about the first century Church? What does the Bible teach about Lent? Unlike New Year’s Day, Christmas Day, Halloween, St. Valentine’s Day and other pagan holidays which are celebrated by the secular, non-religious world, the Lenten season is observed by dedicated religious believers.
From Ash Wednesday to Easter, many solemnly mark their foreheads with ash, “fasting” (or abstaining from certain foods or physical pleasures) for 40 days. This is done to supposedly imitate Jesus Christ’s 40-day fast in the wilderness (Matt. 4:1-2). Some give up smoking. Others give up chewing gum. Still others give up over-eating or cursing. People vow to give up anything, as long as it prepares them for Easter.
So where did Lent originate? How did it come to be so widely observed by mainstream Christianity? Believe it or not, Lent was never observed by Christ or His apostles. He commanded His disciples to “Go you therefore, and teach all nations…teaching them to observe all things whatsoever I have commanded you” (Matt. 28:19-20). Jesus never commanded them to observe Lent or Easter. He did, however, command them to keep Passover and the Days of Unleavened Bread. In fact, during His last Passover on earth, Christ gave detailed instructions on how to observe the Passover service. He also instituted new Passover symbols (John 13:1-17).
Lent was not observed by the first century Church! It was first addressed by the church at Rome during the Council of Nicea in A.D. 325, when Emperor Constantine officially recognized that church as the Roman Empire’s state religion. Any other form of Christianity that held to doctrines contrary to the Roman church was considered an enemy of the state. In A.D. 360, the Council of Laodicea officially commanded Lent to be observed. Originally, people did not observe Lent for more than a week. Some kept it for one or two days. Others kept it for 40 consecutive hours, falsely believing that only 40 hours had elapsed between Christ’s death and resurrection.
Eventually, it became a 40-day period of fasting or abstaining from certain foods. The emphasis was not so much on the fasting as on the spiritual renewal that the preparation for Easter demanded. It was simply a period marked by fasting, but not necessarily one in which the faithful fasted every day. However, as time went on, more and more emphasis was laid upon fasting. During the early centuries (from the fifth century on especially) the observance of the fast was very strict. Only one meal a day, toward evening was allowed: flesh, meat and fish, and in most places even eggs and dairy products, were absolutely forbidden. Meat was not even allowed on Sundays.
From the ninth century onward, Lent’s strict rules were relaxed. Greater emphasis was given to performing “penitential works” than to fasting and abstinence. According to the apostolic constitution Poenitemini of Pope Paul IV (Feb. 17, 1966), “abstinence is to be observed on Ash Wednesday and on all Fridays of the year that do not fall on holy days of obligation, and fasting as well as abstinence is to be observed on Ash Wednesday and Good Friday.
Today, Lent is a season “for penance, which means sorrow for sin and conversion to God.” This tradition teaches that employing self-discipline during Lent will give a worshipper the “control over himself that he needs to purify his heart and renew his life.” It’s as simple as that!
The stalls were filled to overflowing for the Fayre held at the end of November in the seasonally decorated Memorial Hall.
Record numbers of people came along and more children than ever visited Father Christmas in his Grotto to have their photos taken with him.
Prizes in the Grand Draw included £50 (kindly donated); vouchers for Hamble Spa Room; Family Swimming at Fleming Park and Mary Kay Cosmetic Makeover and three family tickets for the Berry Theatre, Hedge End, as well as other seasonal goods. We are grateful to the donors of the prizes and to all who bought and sold tickets. During the afternoon Sonia Haddock (Hamble Spa Room) provided head and hand massages, donating her takings to the Fayre. Kan Ltd of Ensign Way donated goods to sell and the two village Co-op stores provided food for the refreshments for which we are grateful.
Thank you to everyone who supported us in so many different ways helping us to raise an all time record sum of £1909.05 (£250 up on last year) for much needed everyday running expenses for St. Andrew’s Church.
We wish Bill Mintram every happiness when he moves to Hertfordshire and thank him most sincerely for all his work at the Fêtes and Fayres over many years.
A date for your diary: SUMMER FÊTE
Saturday, 16th June – watch this space!
Pat Stephens will be the new Grand Draw Organiser and she would appreciate a sponsor for the £50 cash first prize for the Fête (and later for the Fayre) as well as prizes. Please contact Pat on 023 8045 4181 if you can help.
Members and friends of St. Andrew’s Church enjoyed a traditional Christmas dinner on the 7th December at the RAF Yacht Club, organised by Ray and Heather Brown. The popular event saw 80 diners comfortably accommodated and attentively served by the staff of the RAF YC for what proved to be an excellent evening.
A raffle was held, and a gift was given to each of us at the end of the evening.
£225 has been given to Church Funds for essential electrical work; £50 will be used for equipment for Beacons and the remainder of money raised was used to buy Selection Boxes for the members of Beacons.
Thanks go to Ray and Heather and the Staff of the RAF YC for a memorable evening – some people have already put their names down for next year!
The Christmas Celebration Carol Service the week before Christmas raised £200 for Save the Children’s East Africa Appeal.
The Christingle and Crib Services’ Collections and the money donated from the Christmas Card Board, where communal Christmas greetings were left and a donation made instead of sending individual cards, raised £369 which has been sent to the Children’s Society.
Members of the RAF Yacht Club and the Royal Southern Yacht Club held Carol Singing Evenings where collections of £64 and £270 respectively were taken, which will be used for Church Funds.
Carols in the Square on Christmas Eve saw around 1,000 adults and children massed in the Square all in good voice. The collection raised £788 for the Rose Road Appeal and the Church.
Father Christmas arrived to great excitement from the children, who all received sweets.
Grateful thanks are sent to Grace Midgley who accompanied the carol singing on the keyboard; to Picador who supplied the lorry; to Veals who donated the sweets and to Simon Gardner for help with acoustics.
Here in Hamble we have St. Andrew’s Church, but have you ever wondered why this church is dedicated to this particular saint?
St. Andrew, whose feast day is November 30th, is the patron saint for fishermen. Andrew, like his brother, Simon Peter, was a fisherman. He became a disciple of the great St. John the Baptist, but when John pointed to Jesus and said, “Behold the Lamb of God!” Andrew understood that Jesus was greater. At once he left John to follow the Divine Master. Jesus knew that Andrew was walking behind him, and turning back, he asked, “What do you seek?” When Andrew answered that he would like to know where Jesus lived, Our Lord replied, “Come and see.” Andrew had been only a little time with Jesus when he realised that this was truly the Messiah.
From then on, he decided to follow Jesus. Andrew was thus the first disciple of Christ.
Next, Andrew brought his brother Simon (St. Peter) to Jesus and Jesus received him, too, as His disciple. At first the two brothers continued to carry on their fishing trade and family affairs, but later, the Lord called them to stay with Him all the time. He promised to make them fishers of men, and this time, they left their nets for good.
It is believed that after Our Lord ascended into Heaven, St. Andrew went to Greece to preach the gospel. He is said to have been put to death on a cross, to which he was tied, not nailed. He lived two days in that state of suffering, still preaching to the people who gathered around their beloved Apostle.
Two countries have chosen St. Andrew as their patron – Russia and Scotland.
Hamble was once a fishing village and obviously those early Christians who built this Priory Church thought very deeply as to who their patron should be. Andrew was the obvious choice, and we are privileged to have this saint in our community.
Thursday Fellowship support Canine Partners Puppy, Amelia.
Guess what? It’s Christmas and another episode in the life of Amelia, your Canine Partners Puppy!
I have now settled in with my puppy parent, Jill and life is very busy. I have to go to puppy classes once a week with Jill so that Canine Partners’ trainers can see how I am getting on. It gives a chance to meet all the other puppies learning to be assistance dogs, and sometimes we are allowed to play together, which is fun! As part of the being socialised, Jill takes me everywhere with her. I love it when she takes me into a coffee shop – all those lovely smells! Sadly, I am not allowed to have any tasty pastries but if I am well–behaved and lie quietly under the table then I do get a treat. When I am fully qualified, I will accompany my disabled owner everywhere including restaurants, so it is important that I know how to behave in public places.
Jill has also taken me travelling! We went on a bus, which was a bit scary at first as I didn’t really expect it to move, and Jill had to encourage me to lie down while the bus was moving. As if that wasn’t a big enough adventure, she also then took me onto a big train! Lots of puppies are frightened by stations with all the hustle and bustle of people and the noise of the trains as they pull in to the platforms, but Jill was very impressed with me as I took it all in my stride.
I have had fun with Jill’s grandchildren. I am allowed to play with them and I don’t know who tires first, me or them. I have also been spending more time with John, the chap who uses an electric wheelchair and is waiting for a canine partner. It is all good practice for me to get used to being next to a wheelchair. Jill is a member of Canine Partners’ demonstration team, and she has a demo dog called Saffy. As she is asked to take part in lots of demos, I get to go along too and show off my skills – which are not quite as impressive as Saffy’s yet, but one day……! Anyway, I look so cute that people like to watch me showing off how obedient I am.
It has been very exciting at puppy classes as I am now learning to pick up thngs that Jill drops such as keys, as that is one of the main things that wheelchair uses need. She is also teaching me to touch her hand when she commands. This might not seem very useful, but later on that will lead on to touching lift buttons, pedestrian buttons and maybe even an alarm button that could save someone’s life. Tugging is another core skill that we youngsters learn. I love tugging, but we have to stop tugging when we are asked otherwise it’s not good! Tugging can help someone with disability as it means I could tug someone up out of bed, and tug off clothes like socks or a jacket. So much to learn!
I helped Jill with a demo she gave at a polo club recently. That was exciting and Jill was very impressed with me as I coped with all the noise and people really well. Even the very large horses didn’t worry me. Jill says I’m “bomb-proof”…whatever that means!!
Your support is helping me to learn how to be an assistance dog, so thank you very much. I hope you have a lovely Christmas.”
Plenty of Room at the Inn
The spirit of Christmas was once again alive and well at St. Andrew’s Church in Hamble, where a band of volunteers opened the doors of the Priory Centre behind the Church to host a Christmas lunch for 40 members of the community who would otherwise have been on their own.
Funds for the event are raised all year at the Place 2 B “pop-up” café, which opens on the last Saturday morning of each month, from 10 am to 12 noon in the Priory Centre. Further donations were very kindly made by BP, CooperVision, Hamble Parish Council, Co-operative Funeralcare and also from a number of individuals. The ham and turkey were donated by Owtons Traditional Butchers and vegetables by Pickwell Farm, with members of the community and congregation providing other necessities such as bottles of wine and sherry, trifles, Christmas puds, cranberry sauce, mints, crackers and table decorations, not to mention transport both there and back.
After a glass of sherry on arrival a delicious Christmas lunch was served, once again prepared by the loveliest chef you could hope to meet.
Our Steve is so calm and reassuring that one volunteer referred to working with him as being in Angel’s Kitchen. Take note Marco Pierre and Gordon, you don’t have to shout to produce meals fit for kings!
And guess who made an appearance after the pudding and trifle? That’s right, Santa Claus stopped by on his way back to the North Pole, bringing gifts for all the guests. Then the revellers rounded the afternoon off with a medley of Christmas carols.
A big thank you goes to the many volunteers who helped with preparation, on the day and with the clearing up. There were so many acts of kindness from members of the wider community and the church congregation which made this such a warm, happy and friendly event, bringing so much pleasure to the guests who attended. We are also grateful to all those publications and organisations that helped us with advertising.
There will be another lunch next year and the team would be happy to hear from anyone who can help out with driving, catering, sponsorship or any other support – and also from anyone wanting to attend. Why not come along to the Place 2 B one month and talk to us. This has turned into a lively social occasion for local residents and passers-by, all of whom enjoy the home-made cakes, coffee, tea and good company to be found.
See you next year – same time, same place!
In memory of Alec Chalk
(8th of October 1928 – 18th November 2011)
After being married to Alec for 55 years, it’s surprising that you still don’t know somebody! I have been moved by so many people telling me how they’ve benefited from Alec’s 83 years, even up to the last days when he was so poorly.
He was so proud of all his family and watched them grow in their different ways. We were very pleased to make voyages to the Far East to see Tim, Jacquie and our 3 grandsons in their surroundings. We enjoyed many family holidays – all different and some in amusing places – with Rosie and family from Oxford. Ann and her family have been very constant in visiting – Alec enjoyed being followed like a shadow by her dog, looking for treats. Possibly a bit of cupboard love!
He experienced marvellous care from the Blackthorn Health Centre, Southampton General and the Motor Neurone Disease Association and associated care teams.
So many kind prayers, thoughts and deeds by all his friends brought him much comfort and were truly appreciated by the family. He will be sadly missed but so fondly remembered.
In the few years that I knew Alec, he inspired me in so many ways, as he did with many others in his teaching career; his work with the scouting movement and also in his retirement. He was a true gentleman, a proud and upright family man of great academic achievements.
Alec had a real gift of bringing people and communities together, especially teenagers who were struggling with life’s basic skills and challenges. An instance of this was certainly true of his teaching career, where often he found himself with a class of young children, that no one else had any time for. These children were often from very under privileged backgrounds, yet, through his love of nature and history, applied himself with dedication and patience, exploring practical ways in which to engage these children in education. Alec was a man always endeavouring to give these children a fair start in life and not set them aside, as perhaps so often happens. Truly a champion of the underdog.
Alec was also someone who did have very firm opinions of most things in life. I found if you cared to engage him in conversation and challenged his opinions, he showed immense respect and a willingness to explore things further with you. Very occasionally, you could see Alec began to see things from a different point of view, but you did need to take that initial brave step.
On the diagnosis of his Illness of Motor Neurone Disease (MND) in June 2010, Alec, as a true Christian, displayed amazing strength and battled courageously through all aspects of his illness that were set before him. Despite all of this, he maintained his sense of humour and always had a joke to share with you. Sometimes these jokes were controversial and somewhat borderline but hey! that was Alec, always ready for a laugh and a bit of fun.
Below is a passage from a Scout publication that was read out at his funeral by a fellow scouter of Alec’s, Malcolm Thornton. I think this describes the Christian life Alec believed in and also attained.
To laugh often and love much.
To win the respect of intelligent persons and the affection of children.
To earn the approbation of honest critics and to endure the betrayal of false friends.
To appreciate beauty.
To find the best in others.
To give one’s self.
To leave the world a bit better, whether by a healthy child,
a garden patch or a redeemed social condition.
To have played and laughed with enthusiasm and sung with exultation.
To know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived…
This is to have succeeded.
Alec will be dearly missed by his family, his friends and myself but he leaves us with many memories. I feel he leaves us all with the inspiration to explore ways in which we too can inspire, be courageous and help those who are in need.
God bless you Alec and may you now rest in peace.
One night I had a dream.
I dreamed I was walking along the beach with God and across the sky flashed scenes from my life.
For each scene I noticed two sets of footprints in the sand, one belonged to me and the ther
When the last scene of my life flashed before us I looked back at the footprints in the sand.
I noticed that at times along the path of life there was only one set of footprints.
I also noticed that it happened at the very lowest and saddest times of my life.
This really bothered me and I questioned God about it
“God, You said that once I decided to follow You, You would walk with me all
the way but I noticed that during the most troublesome time in my life there
is only one set of footprints. I don’t understand why in times when I needed
You most, You would leave me”.
God replied, “My precious, precious child, I love you and I would never, never leave
you during your times of trials and suffering.
When you see only one set of footprints it was then that I carried you”.
Christmas in the Priory Centre
It was Christmas Day in the Priory Centre,
In Hamble by the water
The day was mild and cloudy, not a bit like winter.
A band of happy helpers had gathered there quite early
To make the Hall look special and cook a lot of turkey.
At 12 noon the folk were brought from near and far,
Some by shank’s pony, and some were brought by car.
There were forty people who would have been alone,
And we didn’t want them to be at home all on their own.
They shared in a Christmas spirit of fun and food and laughter
With a memory, we hope, that will remain with them ever after.
Letter to the Editor
Ref. Christmas Edition – Page 19 – A Bear’s Point of View
As St. Andrew’s Church Health and Safety Officer, I must write to address a few comments to the poor bear who was subjected to such a hazardous experience as the Church Parachute Jump last October (in the Fall?)
You poor thing! I could hardly “bear” to read about it. What could have happened doesn’t “bear” thinking about.
Certainly – your final point – you should have received Health and Safety training, and I consider it “bear” faced effrontery that I wasn’t so approached.
First of all, the best way to deal with a hazard is to eliminate it. I am not proposing that the event should be cancelled – “bear” with me – but improvements must be made. Please approach the Management to request that the Church Tower be hinged at the base, so that at the required time it can be moved through ninety degrees and rest alongside the cedar tree. In this manner, you and your three colleagues (fore bears?) can step safely from the top forward onto the grass, symbolically carrying your parachutes. (The shark could carry a Great White one in his mouth?)
Should Fr. John become unhinged at this suggestion, we need to re-think.
You mention that, with the shark and the dinosaur, you were hauled up the face of the Tower.
This is too much to “bear”!
Thinking about the rough stonework, it is akin to the old naval practice of keel hauling, and would certainly have made the dino-sore.
The Church Tower must at once be coated with a frictionless plastic coating so that no grazing can occur (apart from the tortoise munching his grass by the gravestone).
Your description of being hurled from the Tower I can hardly “bear” to read about. If this must be done, I require eight firemen from the local station, with a jumping sheet, to be suitably positioned so that the unfortunate descender can “bear” down on it safely.
A First Aider must be in attendance, “bearing” suitable equipment, and with an abundant supply of honey based hot drinks.
I am not happy about the screaming spectators. Excessive decibels can seriously damage hearing, and large notices in several languages must be erected to encourage restraint. (And “b-ear” plugs issued).
And then to have to repeat the experience of jumping!!
I wonder that you could “bear” up under the strain.
To cap it all, you were given no food. I am firmly of the opinion that your local branch rep. Teddy Roosevelt is not good at representing your interests. I strongly recommend that you Teddy Bears “pick Nick” instead.
I hope the foregoing will “bear” your consideration. I firmly believe that full implementation of my recommendations will “steiff-le” all criticism.
Time will “bear” me out.
Best wishes, honey!
|Sunday 5th||11.30 am The 11.15 with Baptism Service|
|Tuesday 7th||10.30 am – 12.45 pm St Andrew’s Café7 pm Healing Service|
|Wednesday 8th||2 pm – 3 pm Cherubs|
|Sunday 12th||6 pm Choral Evensong|
|Wednesday 15th||2 pm – 3 pm Cherubs|
|Tuesday 21st||10.30 am – 12.45 pm St Andrew’s Café|
|Wednesday 22nd||2 pm – 3 pm Cherubs; 7 pm Ash Wednesday Eucharist|
|Wed 22nd – Sat 25th||9 am and 6 pm Daily Office|
|Saturday 25th||10 am – 12 noon The Place 2 B|
|Sunday 26th||6 pm Lent Choral Evensong|
|Mon 27th–Sat 3rd March||9 am and 6 pm Daily Office|
|Wednesday 29th||2 pm – 3 pm Cherubs; 7 pm Lent Course|
|Friday 2nd||11 am Women’s World Day of Prayer|
|Sunday 4th||11.30 am The 11.15 with Baptism Service6 pm Lent Choral Evensong|
|Mon 5th – Sat 10th||9 am and 6 pm Daily Office|
|Tuesday 6th||10.30 am – 12.45 pm St Andrew’s Café7 pm Healing Service|
|Wednesday 7th||2 pm – 3 pm Cherubs; 7 pm Lent Course|
|Sunday 11thSunday 11th – 25th||6 pm Lent Choral EvensongTwo Saints’ Charity Collection|
|Mon 12th – Sat 17th||9 am and 6 pm Daily Office|
|Wednesday 14th||2 pm – 3 pm Cherubs; 7 pm Lent Course|
|Sunday 18th||10 am Mothering Sunday; 6 pm Lent Choral Evensong|
|Mon 19th – Sat 24th||9 am and 6 pm Daily Office|
|Tuesday 20th||10.30 am – 12.45 pm St Andrew’s Café|
|Wednesday 21st||2 pm – 3 pm Cherubs; 7 pm Lent Course|
|Thursday 22nd||12 noon Lent Lunch|
|Sunday 25th||6 pm Lent Choral Evensong|
|Mon 26th – Sat 31st||9 am and 6 pm Daily Office|
|Saturday 31st||10 am – 12 noon The Place 2 B|
Who do I contact? St. Andrew’s Parochial Church Council (PCC)
|Annette de Bary||Music||023 80458452|
|Colin Glue||Churchwarden||023 80457053|
|Joan Glue||Parish Reader||023 80457053|
|Helen Griffiths||Music; PCC Vice Chairman;Deanery Synod Rep||023 80458452|
|Arthur Haines-Ray||Assistant Churchwarden;Funeral Verger||023 80453553|
|Pat Stephens||Churchwarden; Assistant Sacristan||023 80454181|
|Thomas Taylor||023 80458347|
|Fr John Travers||Baptisms; Weddings; Funerals;Priory Centre||023 80452148|
|David Winser||Parish Reader, Sacristan||023 80455872|
|Pat Gillman||Magazine distribution||023 80452422|
|Richard and Hilary Hardy||Electoral roll||023 80453676|
|Grant Hearn||Friends of St Andrew’s||023 80456265|
|Brian Howlett||Health and safety||023 9283 2740|
|Jeff Law||Finance||023 80454299|
|Kim Quayle||Beacons||023 80562193|
|Heather and Terry Smith||Wedding Vergers||023 80452988|
|Helen Taylor||Cherubs||023 80458347|
|Judy Waghorn||Fête/Fayre Co-ordinator||01489 782795|
“New Waves” Magazine Editor: Liz Jarvis
17 Walker Place, Hamble, S031 4BL Tel 023 8045 2726
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